Famous Argentine psychoanalyst and writer Gabriel Rolón states that pain leaves much deeper and more permanent marks on the human mind than happiness. According to him, remembering happy moments is not always a source of complete joy; because these beautiful reminders also painfully bring to our attention the absence of people who are no longer in our lives or the situations we have lost. Many people tend to look for magical solutions or quick prescriptions that will provide instant relief for complex emotional problems. However, Rolón insists that, contrary to such promises of quick fixes, building a satisfying life requires taking personal responsibility. He emphasizes that completely abandoning the expectation of absolute and perfect happiness is the first step toward achieving true inner peace.
The expert argues that happiness, by its very nature, is always incomplete and flawed, which is why absolute happiness in a complete sense does not exist. Rolón suggests that people can reach a healthier mental state not by ignoring the pains, wounds, deficiencies, and losses in their lives, but by directly accepting them. To express this philosophy, he uses a new and original term he calls "faltacidad", which is based on the idea of 'lack' or 'shortcoming'. This term describes a philosophy of life where wounds and pains are also integrated, and life is accepted realistically with all its flaws. Thus, people can learn to exist in harmony with their own limitations rather than denying them.
Rolón also states that true happiness can only be built and experienced in the present moment. Living with longing for the past or tying all hopes to an uncertain future is one of the biggest traps that prevents us from enjoying the moment we are in. The healthiest path for a person's mental health is to accept experiencing both the limitations and the beauties that today brings simultaneously. Even beautiful memories experienced in the past can sometimes create a deep melancholy in a person because of the sense of loss they contain. Therefore, one must know the value of the present moment and see the fact that the experiences life offers will always be somewhat flawed as a natural reality.
The psychoanalyst also focuses on love, perhaps one of the most complex emotions of human nature, examining this concept in depth. According to Rolón, love is a very powerful and vital source that alleviates human existential loneliness and serves to share the pains of the world one lives in. When the people we love bond with us, they also gain a very great and sensitive power over us. The most critical test between two people in a bond of love is to avoid using this feeling as a destructive weapon in the event of any disagreement or argument. A healthy and long-lasting relationship is possible when the parties use this emotional power in their hands not to harm each other, but to understand and protect one another.
Finally, the author points out that external expectations from family and society create a great pressure that prevents individuals from discovering their true desires. The social patterns and familial role expectations imposed on us from the moment we are born can often distance us from our own inner voice and true passions. Rolón states that the main purpose of the psychoanalysis method is to prevent a person from living by blindly accepting a destiny imposed by others. He emphasizes that the process of discovering one's own subjective desire is extremely difficult and arduous, but that this personal journey will never end. The effort of a person to be themselves and to take control of their own life is the most valuable endeavor that gives meaning to life despite all its difficulties.
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